| | | Quote: from Mike G on 12:12 pm on April 13, 2002
| | | Quote: from ExCyber on 1:31 am on April 13, 2002 If you know a person who wants to go to the trouble of not hurting your feelings, is there anything particularly wrong about being friends with them? |
No, not at all, if that's what you actually want! If you're sexually attracted to this person and want a relationship with them, however, settling for "just being friends" is a rocky road to heartbreak in my experience. Particularly if she's seeing other guys while you're involuntarily celibate and frustrated with the whole sorry situation. I think the lesson is: be honest with yourself about what you want. Don't let other people tell you that you "should" be happy with friendship - if that's not what you're looking for, look elsewhere. Make your motives clear from the outset, and don't pretend to be a eunuch if you really want to fuck her silly. One of the worst traps you can fall into is pretending to be friends with the girl, secretly hoping that she'll fall in love or hop into bed with you when she discovers what a "Nice Guy" (tm) you really truly are. I'm sorry to say I've been there and done that, and ultimately it's unfair both to her and to yourself. Mike |
Word to a brotha. Being 'friends' with a girl you have asked out is akward and sucks. It also puts a lot of tension between the two. Sure, its worked before, but Im willing to bet its been fucked up more than not. I know from experience. |