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Quote: from ExCyber on 1:31 am on April 13, 2002

If you know a person who wants to go to the trouble of not hurting your feelings, is there anything particularly wrong about being friends with them?

Quote: from Mike G on 12:12 pm on April 13, 2002

Quote: from ExCyber on 1:31 am on April 13, 2002

If you know a person who wants to go to the trouble of not hurting your feelings, is there anything particularly wrong about being friends with them?

No, not at all, if that's what you actually want!

If you're sexually attracted to this person and want a relationship with them, however, settling for "just being friends" is a rocky road to heartbreak in my experience. Particularly if she's seeing other guys while you're involuntarily celibate and frustrated with the whole sorry situation.

I think the lesson is: be honest with yourself about what you want. Don't let other people tell you that you "should" be happy with friendship - if that's not what you're looking for, look elsewhere. Make your motives clear from the outset, and don't pretend to be a eunuch if you really want to fuck her silly.

One of the worst traps you can fall into is pretending to be friends with the girl, secretly hoping that she'll fall in love or hop into bed with you when she discovers what a "Nice Guy" (tm) you really truly are. I'm sorry to say I've been there and done that, and ultimately it's unfair both to her and to yourself.

Mike

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		Scylla		Apr 12, 2002
			I declared to a girl who I was behind her for 4 months and she said me NO ("I like you very much too but I consider you a friend" Fuck off! It`s because I`m not attractive)!!! Today I hate women!!! Today I hate the happiness!!! Today I hate the world!!! Today I hate the love!!! I`ll do night turn tonight... It`s the better way of discharging adrenaline...

		jim993		Apr 12, 2002
			LOL i have had worse #### at least she didn't lead you on.

		Mysticales		Apr 12, 2002
			Men, lets start.......try this. We women have to always worry about you guys because you try only to be nice and sweet not because you care, only because you want some. Like ####. We see your TRUE motives if you stay "friends" if you leave and get pissy then we know you dont care......"some" men who DO care about someone realize that we want space at times and we go thorough bad times.......its better to see us when we ARE bad mood before you commit to them....if we were ALL sweet 24/7 then you might make a mistake when you DO commit.....like #### Im sorry but if you cant be there and dont dwell on it and just BE a friend. She will most likly come back after she gets out of her mood. Depends on you really.....stay pissy and lose her, or live with her, be your same self and you will see what happens. Dont judge all of us like you just did....otherwise I will post the flame I was about to do before I tried to explain abit....give her space thats all. IF you both care for each other she will come back.....-end- sorry if im speaking in tounges....

		Mysticales		Apr 12, 2002
			Just proves that he doesnt care much anyways....

		jim993		Apr 12, 2002
			well you have to admit myst that sometimes you just have to give up i mean there are a lot of times that when a girl says that about being friends it really does mean that they don't like you in that way and don't want to hurt your feelings

		ExCyber		Apr 12, 2002
			If you know a person who wants to go to the trouble of not hurting your feelings, is there anything particularly wrong about being friends with them?

		Scylla		Apr 13, 2002
			Mysticales, you didn`t know her: from I was on the High School, she was the most shy and strange girl on the building. But I talked to her once and thought "This girl is more interesting that another one I met!" So she became a bit open from going to me (I`m really suffering writing this on English, it`s a pity), but the thing that really torments me is the though that now she`s open to the world, I won`t be the best person she can see around. Of course I`ll try to be friends, but now I`m feeling so embarrased... "Mysticales Posted on 10:52 am on April 12, 2002 Just proves that he doesnt care much anyways.... " Don`t be silly, Mysticales, I`m getting tired of saying to all posters, FTP Admins and all that I can`t be all the day connected to the Internet. And one reason of not posting on this thread is that now, I`m a little ashamed of it.

		Mysticales		Apr 13, 2002
			Sorry..yesterday I was on overload.....ask Ice...couldnt even rem what I was thinking about... Anyways look SOMETIMES the shy ones do a 360....its sad really.......but yea...it sucks....just hard for us alot of times more then you all....Men use us then toss us.... SOME women go for the BBB (Bigger badder better) thats not right either...but still......

		Scylla		Apr 13, 2002
			Oh, I didn`t know my previous message was posted, I thought my connection was down. OK, Mysticales. What does "Robotnik" mean?

		Fabrizo		Apr 13, 2002
			You have played the Sonic games before havn't you? If you have then you should know what Robotnik is.

		Mysticales		Apr 13, 2002
			Those suck really....sad but it happens at times....sorry....

		Scylla		Apr 13, 2002
			You`re right. Thanks for trying to help. I won`t forget...

		jim993		Apr 13, 2002
			hey scylla don't feel embarrased about this post i posted one like this a few months ago but mine was about a girl leading me on(i think i forget that's what happend in the end)